safety2Quick link: I Don’t Promise to Keep My Kids Safe

Yesterday I had an essay published at Brain, Child about why I think promising safety to kids is foolish and even a dangerous. Safety is not my highest aim for my kids nor is it something I can guarantee or control.

The line in movies, books, and television shows that drives me most crazy is when a parent says to a child, “I won’t let anything happen to you.” There are variations on this theme:

“Everything will be fine.”

“You aren’t going to die.” (or daddy or mommy isn’t going to die)

“You will be safe.”

“I promise, nothing will go wrong.”

“Liar, liar, pants on fire,” is what I want to say in response.

How do you communicate with your kids about things like sickness or violence or death?

Click here to read I Don’t Promise to Keep My Kids Safe