A few years ago I wrote an essay for Desiring God called Are You Mom Enough? The essay came from an article in Time magazine and from a conversation with a friend about the ‘mommy wars.’ After parenting for more than a decade in east Africa, I didn’t know what a mommy war was and had to ask my friend for clarification. Her answer made me really sad. Whether because of personal experience, cultural norms, personality and taste…moms were pitting themselves against one another. Or were being pitted against one another by outside forces. Envy, pride, comparison, judgment, all our own mess got tangled up in how we ‘should’ parent. Breast or bottle, home school or public or private or internet-based or boarding, stay at home mom or go to the office mom…it seemed none of us could make the ‘right’ choice. None of us could be mother enough.
Motherhood is challenging enough. Being a woman, a friend, a spouse, a mom, is hard. Basically, being human is hard. And instead of supporting one another, women were waging these petty wars. Like I said, it made me sad.
Then I thought more about that question: Are you mom enough? And I realized the answer was a resounding “No.” I am not mom enough. I will fail my children and make the wrong choices and bumble around hoping to give the world some solid citizens filled with faith, courage, joy, compassion, and vision in a few short years.
For me, this is right in the sweet spot of where my faith turns from theory and ideas to practice and sustaining power. I am weak and in my weakness, I’m strong. I lean on a God who is enough. Who is always and infinitely enough. I am not waging a war with other moms. I am waging a war for faith, for delight in this God who gives me his enough-ness every day, with new mercy each morning.
Desperate, Breathless, Dependent Parenting is another way to put it, and another essay I wrote for DG that is included in this new book.
So. All of that is simply an introduction to the new book put out by Desiring God.
Our new book, written by eight women, exposes the spiritual corruption behind competitive mothering, and explores how gospel grace is relevant for the daily trials and worries of motherhood. In the trenches, these moms have learned to redirect their hope and trust from the shifting sands of popular opinion to the unchanging all-sufficiency of God.
Mom Enough: The Fearless Mother’s Heart and Hope, is a rich collection of gospel truth from Rachel Jankovic, Gloria Furman, Rachel Pieh Jones, Christine Hoover, Carolyn McCulley, Trillia Newbell, and Christina Fox.
It is an incredible honor to be included in a list with these authors – wise women, experienced mothers, women of faith. I encourage you to download the free e-book or to purchase the paperback via Amazon. You’ll be blessed, challenged, inspired.
Here are the websites of the other authors so you can find more of their work: